First dates are all about building rapore and getting to know your potential new love interest.
You only get one chance to make a first impression – so DON’T BLOW IT!
Below are some common first dates that lessen your chances to create a bond with your date:
1. To a loud bar
You can’t get to know each other if you can’t hear each other! First dates can be at bars but make sure it is a low-key place where you two can chat and where there won’t be drunk people yelling, puking or generally ruining the mood.
2. To a movie
Once again, movies are a talk killer. You should use the first date to really see what you think of one another, ask questions and learn about each other’s interests.
A movie, where you have to sit side by side silently staring at a screen, is an absolutely awful first date idea!
3. To a friends’ house/party
This will make her nervous and will put you in the awkward position of introducing her to everyone. She knows no one and you know everyone. That sounds pretty uncomfortable for her, right?
She will spend all night hoping your friends don’t hate her and you will spend all night hoping she is having fun and worrying that she is miserable.
4. Somewhere HOT
Don’t bring her out to the park on a hot summer day. Just don’t do it. Her hair will frizz, her make-up will run and she will sweat through whatever cute outfit she picked.
No woman wants to be drenched in her own perspiration on a first date.
5. Somewhere COLD
She probably won’t be prepared. Girls usually wear their cutest clothes on dates and usually their cutest clothes are not suitable for cold.
Women also tend to get colder than men in general so she might be chilly when you are feeling great.
You want to create an easy, fun experience. You don’t want her blowing into her hands and chattering her teeth the whole time.
6. Out of town
You don’t want to be trapped out of town with a girl that you don’t like anymore then she wants to be trapped out of town with you.
Keep within a 30 minute radius of home so if the date is awful you are not stuck in a car for 2 hours. Not to mention, it’s a little creepy for a woman to be brought too far from home by a man she doesn’t know well.
7. To your house
This is another slightly creepy first date idea. Your intentions are obviously pure but it is a little suggestive to bring her home on the first date.
A public place is much less threatening and gives each of you an “out” if the date turns out disastrous.
8. To meet your family
OK, this should go without saying. Don’t bring her anywhere where she will meet anyone in your family. It is weird for everyone… including you.
Plus, if it doesn’t work out do you really want to have to answer Aunt Betty’s questions about that nice girl you brought over and why she never came back?
9. To the mall
Going to the mall is a bad idea for many reasons:
- It feels like a very juvenile date. She will be reminded of being dropped off at the mall by her parents when she was 13. No one wants that.
- If you have a lot of money then you will seem like you are showing off by shopping at fancy stores.
- If you don’t have a lot of money you don’t want to be somewhere which highlights that fact. In general, the mall is a just bad idea for a first date. Don’t do it.
