First of all, it is vital that you develop the right mindset before talking to a girl. The mindset I am about to bestow on you should give you enough confidence for the first transition of the new you. Whenever you think about going up to a woman, I want you to think to yourself, “the worst she can do is say no.”
You see, most men do not go up to girls out of fear of rejection. The fact is that many men are insecure and take rejection too seriously. Most men do not realize that the worst women can do is say no.
If she does say no, you should move on and go to the next one. She says no, you should be thinking, it is her loss. If she says yes, you have everything to gain. If you go in with this mindset, you will soon realize that talking to girls is really easy.
Routines to help you talk to girls
Talking to girls is like everything else. If you practice enough, you will get better at it and you will gain more confidence. For example, author David DeAngelo suggested an interesting exercise that should increase your confidence within days.
He suggests going to the mall and simply going up to every girl you see. Just go up to a girl and start a conversation. You do not even have to to ask her for her number. This exercise is only for you to get used to talking to girls, that way it can feel more natural.
This next routine is like the same one I just previously discussed, but a little more intense. Say you go to the club with a couple your guy friends. Well this is what you do. You tell your friends that you want to play a little game.
Tell your friends to pick a girl for you to ask to dance. You then tell them that you will go up to any girl they pick as long as they do not make fun of you, if you get rejected.
Next, tell them that you get to pick the next girl for them to dance with. One of the main reasons guys do not talk to girls in clubs or bars is because they are also afraid someone might see them get rejected.
This exercise takes off some of that pressure, because in the back of your mind, you know that your friends won’t make fun of you. In addition, their turn is next.
I know this may seem a little demeaning to women. I do apologize if I offend any women out there reading this. But this game was invented in good faith. Guys, I suggest you do not tell women that you play this game if you do decide to play this.
If you follow these routines, long enough you will notice that talking to girls will call more natural to you. By doing this a lot, you will know what questions to ask and how to respond to any girl talking to you.
Conversation Tips & Techniques
Confidence is one of the main factors needed to talk to a girl effectively. That shy, innocent boy routine does not really fly. Although some women do find shyness attractive, most women like a man with confidence.
Stand up straight, broaden your shoulders. Stick out your chest. Do anything that emanates confidence from your body.
Here are some tips to help you while practising your conversation skills:
Good eye contact
Most men always commit a fatal mistake. When engaging in a conversation with the woman, they do not have good eye contact. Now as a guy, I know that all guys have done this at least one time.
Have you ever talked to a girl and aimlessly your eyes automatically wonders to the girl’s chest? Then when you realize what you have done, you hope that she did not notice, right? Guys, more than likely, they probably did notice.
Consequently, once they do notice, this puts you in the same category that they put most of the men that walk up to them. Just another man, who wants sex.
Once this happens, your chances of getting any further with the female are very slim. So guys what you need to do is keep your eyes on their eyes, when talking to a girl.
Trust me, girls do look to see if you are really paying attention to what they have to say. If your eyes wander to anywhere lower than their chin, you failed. So make sure you keep your eyes on their eyes, not their chest.
Good eye contact, shows confidence. With a good intense stare, you can romanticize a girl and have her frozen in awe.
Chris Rock (comedian) says that girls do not want their men to talk most of the time. They might say they want their men to talk to them. But in truth, they just want you to listen.
I somewhat agree with this theory. Girls love guys that they can confide into. By becoming a great listener for a woman, you become more in tuned with the woman emotionally.
Since women are more emotional based, this type of thing can really turn a girl on. Again, when listening to the female, make sure that you gaze in their eyes intensely to show them that you are really listening to what they have to say. You can even pretend to be a good listener. Of course, this would take some practice.
Sense of humor
Funny is always good when talking to girls. I mean come on, who doesn’t like to laugh? If you can make a girl laugh consistently, you will definitely leave a great impression on the girl’s mind. David DeAngelo suggests that you watch comedians like Chris Rock and D.L. Hughley.
Their skits on relationships and women are very humorous and make great conversation starters with women. If you can incorporate some of those skits with your own opinions on relationships, conversations with girls will be a breeze.
Now, if you can incorporate all the stuff discussed above in your repertoire, you will naturally talk to girls and engage in great conversations.