If you’re crushing on a girl and can’t figure out what to say then use the “KISS” method and “Keep It Sweet and Simple.” That means nothing over the top, elaborate or rehearsed. Just speak to her. Let her get to know you and give yourself a chance to get to know her.
Don’t TRY and impress her because 99% of the time you will fail and end up looking desperate or, even worse, overly confident and cocky.
If you find yourself wondering what to say to a girl you like then try one of these 5 incredibly simple, unassuming ideas of what to say!
OK, yes, I know. This seems entirely too simple but the truth is that simply putting yourself out there and saying, “Hi” is a great way to introduce yourself.
Don’t try and come up with some cheesy pick up line or come up with some elaborate conversation starter.
If you have never spoken (or not spoken much) then simply greet her with a confident smile and an unassuming, “Hello” or “Hi.”
Simple, confident greetings like that will put her at ease. She will not feel like you are being pushy and she will know exactly what to say back… “Hi!”
This will only begin the conversation so you will have to be prepared to continue but, the truth is, that this is the very best way to start a conversation.
2. “What’s up?”
Another simple, unassuming way to start a conversation with a girl is to simply say, “What’s up?” or “How are you doing?” If you already know her a little bit then this is a better choice than a simple, “Hello” and it shows interest in her and what is going on with her.
This shouldn’t be used as a rhetorical question. You should ask her what is up and sincerely want to know. If she says, “Not much,” continue the conversation by asking her about work, school, her family or anything else you know matters to her. Showing an interest in her life will get you major points in her book.
3. “Do you want to hang out?”
If you are pretty confident and you really want to ask her on a date then ask her to do something with you.
Rather than having an elaborate and pre-decided plan you should leave it open to her. Perhaps she has a suggestion of something fun to do.
This way it is less intimidating because it’s not necessarily a “date” but just a chance for the two of you to get to know each other.
Ask casually and confidently and she’ll be a fool to say, “no.” After all, what’s the harm in simply hanging out together for a while?
4. “What are you reading/listening to/etc.?”
If you see her reading a book, playing some internet radio or enjoying ANYTHING else then ask her about it. For instance, if she is snacking on an unusual food or flipping through a magazine, start up a conversation by asking questions.
Asking questions is a great way to show interest in her AND take some of the pressure off of yourself. Rather than having to come up with things to say you can simply hear all about whatever is on her mind. She will find this attractive and you will seem thoughtful.
5. “You’re fun!”
Point blank, any girl wants to be fun! She will love to hear that you think she is great company. This isn’t a conversation starter but it is a simple way to express interest without seeming overeager and it will encourage to keep talking, sharing and wanting to spend time with you.
Truth be told, flattery works. Don’t you want to hear that you are a fun guy? She wants to hear that she is a fun girl… so tell her!
The thing about talking to a girl you like is that saying the very first thing that comes to mind can be dangerous and make you seem a bit nervous and maybe even dorky but, by the same token a rehearsed pick up line or overeager compliment can make you seem like a sleaze.
The easiest happy medium is to be simple, straightforward, honest and forthright. Women love men who are confident and mature enough to just chat with them.